The Onus Is On You....

Some time, you are just lost in thoughts. Thoughts, which keep you awake. In thoughts, at times, you try to answer some questions. One such question that's asked often is, how do you know one cares, or have feelings, or is in love? Good question and it's valid to ask it as well. Many times, what's said is more valuable than what's done or what's shown. So the question is not the one that can be overlooked. But when this question is asked, it's not that easy to answer. If one says, he/she really needs to see whether someone is into the relationship, how do you answer that? Or even more, can you answer that?  

A lot of time, people say, actions speak louder than words/gestures. True. Actions do speak louder than words or gestures. But then, where does words or gestures stand? Nowhere? May be. Gestures are those subtle expressions which don't have any voice nor do they shout for attention. They are just there, to be noticed. to be understood. You have a presentation to make as an assignment. Some one hears that, checks it and spends the entire day and makes one, tries to make a better one than you sent. Is it worth noticing? Does it shows any affection, care or love? You go for a vacation and someone waits to hear from you, till it's almost dawn. Does it fits the bill or it's only worth be filed under just something which anyone will do cos he/she has nothing better to do? Or to put it simply, something which people just do. Someone creates something out of thin air or designs by actually spending time at the shop for it, does it has any worth? Who knows. May be, as much worth as a grain of sand has at the shore of an ocean or as much as important as a fallen leaf is. Just like beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, in the same way it is to notice and appreciate something or overlook and file the same under a quotidian act. 

So back to the question, how you answer the question that whether one is into someone or not, when he/she doesn't say it loud enough any time or all the time? The answer is you can't cos gestures are silent. They don't make a noise. So they come and go. Thus, can we say, it's just the actions that value/speak? Yeah may be. But hold on, can there be a space for another question? Is it fair to ask that whether the other person too didn't do something like notice those gestures? But if questions are answered by silence, you need to understand that the question wasn't a right one and the onus is just on you. 

I shall conclude by mentioning one of my all time favorite poetry, penned by Dr. Wasim Barelwi.

Main bolta gaya hoon wo sunta raha khamosh,

Aise bhi meri haar hui hai kabhi kabhi!

And it's translation in English is, 

I just went on talking, he just listened quietly. 

In this way also I have lost many times!