Saturday, February 24, 2007

Wasted Emotions....

Somehow, someway I am liking the songs sung by Shail these days.  Not all of them but still some songs are definitely making an impact and forcing me to change my opinion about his singing talent which I always doubted so far.  Anyways this post is not exactly about his song.  This is about a video that he has made for his song "Oh Jia".Yes the song is a soft romantic number with good lyrics.  If you are in love with someone , I recommend that you can dedicate this song to that someone special.  Well as I said that this post is not about the song but about the video.  So lets come back to it.  In the video , the hero(Shail itself) is in love with a gal but he doesn't let her know and when he proposes her, he does it in a very casual manner.  So obviously gal gets upset and there are some small arguments that happen in them in the video.  Finally in the last, Shail gets his singing crew together, sings this song outside the gal's home.  Gal really likes it and finally accepts and trusts on his love.  But she asks that from where the money has come from for all this stage show(if we can call that)?So Shail tells her that he has sold his bike for it.  Well gals gets a shock and asks Shail why does he has to do that, was he mad?Shail replies that yes he is mad and he is mad for her in her love.  A sweet hug comes from the gal understanding and valuing the sacrifice done by her guy and finally the video ends here.
So you must be wondering that what this post has to do with this video?Well I guess up till now you must have got that what is the point that I want to talk about?Yes its the same one where the guy sells his bike and does all that for his gal.  There are some people or I shall say very few people are there in this world who do this much for their loved ones.  But as its said, everything is fair in love and war.  So anything which is done for your loved one by you is nothing as comparable to him/her.  But there is one more thing which is worth mentioning here.  You are doing something for that someone special, is he/she really understanding and realizing its importance and giving some value to your efforts?Or is he/she treating it just like any other normal thing and saying "so what"?Yes there are some in this world who don't give any importance for someone's efforts and name their loved one's heartful efforts just an act of selfishness and tell them that whatever they have done , they have done it just for their own happiness.  No one ever asked them to do anything like it and now when they have done too,its just their fault and stupidity that they have done that.  Was it really an act that has been done by that person for his/her own selfishness or happiness, I don't know but yes I can say this that if this is the reward that you get after going through all the pain/trouble to see just that one smile on your loved one's face, shine in his/her eyes than one thing definitely is true and comes in the heart that it was an act of stupidity for sure.  Your heart rips apart and the only thing that you think is that did you all that to hear this only?All one needs and longs when he/she does something, doesn't matter how big/small that act may be,  few words from his/her loved one saying that his/her act is so much important and means so much and it will be always remembered and valued.  But some people think that its just too easy to climb a mountain just to see someone , its very much easy to cross across miles of distance and travel all the way to make someone happy.  May be it is too, I don't know.  But how would you feel when you go all the way to see someone and there is no other business of yours over that place/state/city/country but you have to hear that the other person has no time to even see you?You sit and cry but that person never bothers, how should you feel?He/she is least bothered about you and your tears.  He/she knows that you are there but without bothering for you , he/she is busy in his/her own things.  It does hurt so much.  How much I cant say but yes it does hurt.  You go and see someone and after some time you are told that though you came, it wasn't any big/important thing.  It was a normal thing and moreover, no one asked you to come even.  It was just your own call and you did that just for your own selfishness and for some profit/gain of yours only. It does hurt so much to hear that all your efforts, all your gestures to make that "someone special" feel special are treated in this way.  I don't know why people do that?Why they forget that who has traveled all that distance, he/she wasn't looking anything for him/herself.  All he had done was for just one reason and that was to make his/her loved one smile and make them happy.  Its very easy to say something like this but what's really important is to understand that it takes a lot and yes a lot to do even a tiniest thing for someone and one must value it.  In this last tour of mine, in an annual function which was held in the premises of my company, one guy sang a song for his gal who came all the way from Delhi to Hyderabad just to be with him for one day.  Not anything special in it but that guy did value it this much that he decided to sing a song dedicated to his  gal on the stage and before starting that song, he announced on the stage to everybody about this act of his gal and after the song, called her on the stage to let everyone know and see that she is the one who did this much for him!Nothing special as like her he himself did for her but just this one small 5 minute time interval must have left a permanent mark on that gal's heart that her act, all the trouble that she went through in the journey, adjusting her working schedules to see her guy for just 1 day, they got valued and didn't go in vain and that's something which is as important as doing something for someone.  But there are some in this world who says this even to their loved ones that it doesn't matter to them at all that he/she has come to their place from wherever,they cant and wont do anything about it.  It matters least to them and they have nothing to do with it.  Its not their problem that the other person has come or ever came in the past too. Its a fault of that person who is coming and it was a mistake of that same person only who came in the past too.  It hurts like hell to hear all this. No one asks for an award or a statue to be made of his/her for these things but is speaking few words of appraisal, saying this much that it made them smile, is it too much tough or irrelevant to say? Or may be, we all today are this much busy that all these things have no importance for us.  We have become so much self centered and blind to see beyond ourselves.  But still some things never change no matter what are the times and this is one of those that if you cant value and understand someone gestures, acts , sacrifices done for you, at least don't hurt them by making them feel saying that what ever they did, it has no importance whatsoever and it was a mere act of stupididy.No one is stupid enough to travel across the seas to come and see just someone and hear his/her voice.  Selfish people don't(and they cant too) do that coz they don't love anyone else but just themselves.  If some one did that for you, remember he/she did only because he/she loved you beyond limits and wanted to do something just to make you smile/happy.  Its not selfishness/stupidity to take  pain/trouble and do something for making someone happy and smile. Don't hurt people by saying anything that his/her act was a selfish one. Remember it takes a whole life time to make someone happy but its takes just one moment to hurt someone.Dont make someone feel that their true emotions just got wasted.
I remember these lines which tell the pain of a lover hurt by his loved one.  They are in Hindi, I shall explain their meanings in English in a while.  Have a read:
Ik dil mere dil ko jakhm de gaya,
jindagi bhar marne ki kasam de gaya!
Lakhon phoolon se mein se chuna tha ik phool maine,
jo kaanto se bhi gehri chubhan de gaya!

And the meaning of these in English is as follows:
One heart hurt my heart so much,
Gave me hell for the rest of my life!
I selected out of thousand flowers one for me,
But the same has given me pain of thousand thorns.
I shall conclude by saying this only that value and respect your loved ones coz once you are going to hurt them, there wont be anything that you would be able to rectify your mistake.  And remember never make someone feel that whatever he/she did, all his/her emotions,love, it just got wasted coz according to you, it was an act of stupidity and selfishness.Dont make anyone feel like that coz it hurts so much to see the one you love walk away but what really hurts the most is when you let someone believe that you love them when in real you never did!


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